All in a Chic’s Life: Love, Sex, Career & Everything Else!!!

A New Year —> Valentine Preparation February 2, 2009

Filed under: My Single Girl Soapbox — thechicspot @ 12:35 am

This is my first time writing since the new year, and since I turned 26 on New Year’s Day.  I’ve set my goals in motion and working on my business Adne’ by Adrina coming soon, in transition of moving, and growing spiritually….I must admit it’s been going really well….how’s it going for you?

More soapbox—-> How do you go from lonely to a possible two V-day dates? I won’t go into detail but will say….Guy #1 is the bomb…funny, easy to talk to, and know him for years, but he’s in the process of accomplishing big goals. Guy #2 is loaded financially, but has baby mama drama, but is really nice….really.  Which brings me to this philosophy—-Money is nothing without happiness!   A lot of women run towards the man with money, but can you really be happy with a guy who has drama and money?  Personally, I would much rather the guy with goals and be truly happy than to lay in sorrow.


A New Year’s Resolution December 10, 2008

Filed under: My Single Girl Soapbox — thechicspot @ 4:10 am

This New Year’s Day will not only be my 26th birthday, but a new beginning.  As I get older, I want every year to demonstrate that I’ve grown, work hard,  and have something new to show for it.

Every year, I set a theme. This year (2008) was “Re-construction”.  I wanted to work on myself and get rid of the things and people that I felt were dragging me down emotionally.  They were the man I was dating, the job I was hating, and the feeling of being in school forever.  I knew that I couldn’t move forward until these three problems were solved.  So what did I do? Got rid of the boyfriend (ex-boyfriend), finished my Master’s and got a better job to help a little more financially. It was the best decision I made in my life.  As I go throughout my life, my resolution is to set a theme and goals that will set me up for next year’s theme. So now that I’ve gotten better emotionally, I have the motivation to do bigger things.

Next year’s theme:  Career & Business

I want to take the first step towards starting my business.  I’ve set a few resolutions for next year, but they are still in process (lol).  1) Start my business plan in Jan.  2) Move to a city that will generate revenue. 3) Continue to work in my field of study full-time.  Saving the best for last, 4) Continue to work on myself and stay very close to God.

Of course, I hope I find “Mr. Right from God”. Love is always something I try to accomplish but next year, it’s all business, baby!


Focusing In November 19, 2008

Filed under: My Single Girl Soapbox — thechicspot @ 4:06 am

black20womanBeing single has given me a lot of time to think about things other than men.  At 25 (26 on New Years), I am focusing on my career as well.  One thing I hate about being in my mid 20s is trying to be financially set.  The fact of the matter is what you do now will affect the rest of your life.  I just finished my Master’s and now it’s like, “what’s next”?  Living in SC, opportunities are scarce, so each day there are a thousand questions roaming through my mind. Where do I move? Should I stay here and stick it out?  What career do I really want to have?  Blah, blah, blah.  More so, at this age, you tend to put a time limit on everything.  Finish undergrad at 22, 23, go back to school, have a decent career by 25, start a business venture at 26, 27, and be married and have at least your first child by 30.  Ultimately, I’ve been leaving the answers to all my questions up to God. At the beginning of this year, I made a few resolutions: (1) to take more risks by putting all faith in Christ, (2) finish school at a decent, (3) get rid of the emotional baggage that’s been weighing me down.  I’ve accomplished all three and never felt better.  As for my timeline, I do have a decent career at 25, and a business plan for next year….we’ll see how it goes.


Lonely in the City November 14, 2008

Filed under: My Single Girl Soapbox — thechicspot @ 12:41 am

sad-black-woman1-300x199I’ve been single for 5 months now, after a 3-year relationship. I vowed to pay attention to myself and work on the things I know have to change and mend the scars I received from that relationship before I enter another one. With the help of God, I’ve done so and still in the process. The major things I’ve changed and feel really good about it. However, I have one problem: I am lonely!!! lol. I enjoy the freedom of having no boundaries. Don’t get me wrong, I’m ready to settle down, but I’m going to take my absolute time in getting to know the next guy. In the meantime, I want to have male companionship, not sexually, just someone to hang with. The problem is in this town, the picking of men are slim. You would think that working on my website, planning my nonprofit, doing different hobbies, and working full time I would have no time. You’ll be surprise because you don’t want to keep doing the same things over and over. I don’t want to become overpower by work and trying to hide behind that. More so, I don’t want to become crazy Joan from Girlfriends…lol.