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Lonely in the City November 14, 2008

Filed under: My Single Girl Soapbox — thechicspot @ 12:41 am

sad-black-woman1-300x199I’ve been single for 5 months now, after a 3-year relationship. I vowed to pay attention to myself and work on the things I know have to change and mend the scars I received from that relationship before I enter another one. With the help of God, I’ve done so and still in the process. The major things I’ve changed and feel really good about it. However, I have one problem: I am lonely!!! lol. I enjoy the freedom of having no boundaries. Don’t get me wrong, I’m ready to settle down, but I’m going to take my absolute time in getting to know the next guy. In the meantime, I want to have male companionship, not sexually, just someone to hang with. The problem is in this town, the picking of men are slim. You would think that working on my website, planning my nonprofit, doing different hobbies, and working full time I would have no time. You’ll be surprise because you don’t want to keep doing the same things over and over. I don’t want to become overpower by work and trying to hide behind that. More so, I don’t want to become crazy Joan from Girlfriends…lol.


3 Responses to “Lonely in the City”

  1. Carol Says:

    When you least expect it, the Lord will send that one. He knows when to send him because he does not want that guy to have all of your attention. Continue to walk in the wisdom that God has clearly given you. You are definitely on the right track!

  2. malakia-kali Says:

    I agree with Carol! You are wise enough to realize you need to look within for a while. You are wise enough to work on the you that you need to become in order to be a compliment to “him”. And you are wise enough to seek His guidance. When you come upon “him” — he’ll be so grateful (if he’s not… leave him — lol). BTW, in my little mind — lonely is an “excuse” and something regretful/regrettable usually follows (think about it). However, there is not a thing wrong, with missing (male) companionship… not a thing. 🙂 m-k

  3. Dee Says:

    I can understand how you feel. You are certainly not alone. My last relationship hurt me so much, but it wasn’t really my fault it ended the way it did. After that last experience I really decided to do some soul searching and I’m on the same page as you. There are some lonely nights and days but I try to think positive. Let God work on me in the mean time, I’ll just keep praying and trusting him that he will guide me to the right man! Everything is for a reason, take one day at a time even though it might not be so easy! keep strong… when the time is right true love will happen, I’m learning to be patient with myself! LET GO and LET GOD!

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